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Friday, March 27, 2015

2015-03-27– Friday Whisper – A Letter…


If your children are to write you a letter about how you care about them, aside from the material stuff you get them, what would they write?

20 years from now, would their childhood be something they look back at with a smile or with tears?

40 years from now, how would your children remember you? What would they be nostalgic for? What would they miss from their lives with you?

Once you have children, it is not about you anymore…not about what you like or don’t like, nor it is about what would annoy you or frustrate you… it is about them…You need to get into their world, not the other way around…

You need to get to know them, what they like or dislike, what is their favorite music, movie, food, friends… what they are passionate about and what they are afraid from…

They want you to meet their friends, and they want you to be proud of them in front of them…

You cannot raise your children the way you were raised… they live in a different time, different parents, different place, and different society than yours…

You are not your dad… you are not your mom… and your children are not you…. so you cannot behave like your parents with your children…

And your children are more than just a grade or behavior or a way of thinking…. Each child is a complete world, just like you are…

If grades were what define a person, we wouldn’t have antisocial nerds…we wouldn’t have famous rich drop-out-college people…I am not saying our kids shouldn’t pursue education, I am saying they are more than just a number or an end-of-year average…

If labeling were a way to raise a child, we wouldn’t have low self-esteemed men and women…

If verbal and physical violence were a way to correct a child’s behavior, we wouldn’t have criminals or drug addicts or drunks…

If constant criticism were a way to make a child behave better, we wouldn’t have judgmental adults…

If material stuff was enough to prove that you care about them, we wouldn’t have happy poor people… we wouldn’t have rich people who commit suicide…

A praise by a mom or a dad can never be taken away by the criticism of the world… and a criticism by a mom or a dad will never be replaced by the praise of the world.

Home is more than just a place where we live… it is a place where we feel appreciated, accepted, respected, taken care of, secure and loved… a place that we want to come back to when we are tired, when life does us bad rounds, when we need comfort and help…

Frederick Douglas, an American author, said: “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”

And Bill Ayers, an American elementary education theorist, said: “Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.”


Show your love, compassion and empathy, so that your children will strive to become the parent you are for their children…



Rania Hammoud, ACC, Life Coach
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Friday, March 13, 2015

2015-03-13 - Friday Whisper – Seen, Safe and Understood…

I was listening to one of the videos of Anthony Robbins about what makes relationship works; one of the things he said was: “If you want to keep your woman happy and satisfied, you need to know this: A woman needs to be Seen, Safe and Understood.”

She needs to be seen by her man, needs to feel that she is getting his attention…Don’t address her only when you want to ask her to get you something, ask her about something, or blame her for something…

She needs to feel safe… that her partner will be her refuge, will defend her, will provide for her, and will be there for her when she needs him most…Don’t be the first person she ran away from, rather than run towards him...

She needs to feel understood, heard… She needs to feel that she can communicate what is bothering her and he will be there to comfort her, trying to understand her pain… Don’t be there waiting for her to finish her argument, only to start responding to prove yourself right…It is more important to be in love than to be right…

Oh! And when you get intimate with her, shower her with kisses and touches everywhere…make sure that you are making love to her rather than just having sex…


And a quote from an unknown said: “Every woman's heart has instructions. They are written in her eyes, in her smile, through her actions and in her tears. All she has to do is run into someone who cares enough to read them.”

The problem is not that your woman wakes up one day hating you… the problem is if she wakes up feeling indifferent towards you…



Rania Hammoud, Life Coach
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