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Friday, December 12, 2014

2014-12-12 - Friday Whisper – He Took My Spot…


Few weeks ago, my sister stumbled upon a voicemail note from our late dad and sent it to me…when I heard it, I realized how much I have been missing him and his voice, I treated myself to a good cry…. all I wanted is to go back 10 years in time and stay there, where dad was still alive, where everything seemed fine…

“He took my spot” my friend said when I was giving her my condolences for the passing away of her brother, a man at his 40’s; he had a sudden heart attack and left our world… just like that…

Every time we bury a loved one, we bury a piece of our soul with them…and we cry over that piece for the rest of our lives…

Unless you have lost a dad or a mom, you don’t know how it feels…
Unless you have lost a brother or sister, you won’t know how it feels…
Unless you have lost a spouse or a child, you won’t know how it feels…

Only if you’ve lost one of them, you would stop complaining about a cold coffee, or a long wait in the line, or the traffic… You would stop crying over a spilled juice or a forgotten rotten meal in the fridge…

If you knew you would lose one of them tomorrow, or that they will get a life threatening disease, maybe you will stop complaining today about your dad calling you many times to come home or not buying you stuff you want… or your mom’s loads of advices…or your old folks repeating their own stories of “in our days” over and over again…
You would stop complaining about your husband eating loudly or snoring at night, or your wife not doing things your way, or your kid being late again or not studying enough…
You would stop complaining about your brother borrowing your stuff without asking you first, or your sister taking your car and not returning on time…

I know all these things can be very annoying sometimes, yet compared to losing your dear ones, trust me, those things become silly and of no importance….

So don’t wait till you are very close to losing them to express your disapproval in a more gentle, considerate and empathic way… and maybe some stuff are not really important to sweat over them, if you give it another thought…

Don’t take people and things in your life for granted… Cherish the parts you have instead of looking to the missing ones…

Epicurus, an ancient Greek philosopher, said: “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”

And Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “Gabriel came to me and said: ‘O Muhammad, live as long as you want, for you will die. Love whomever you want, for you will leave them.”

Whatever you do today will become the memory of tomorrow…make sure you are making a good one!


Rania Hammoud, Life Coach
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Friday, September 19, 2014

2014-09-19 - Friday Whisper – Your Past…


Few months ago, I went to Montreal for a short visit. I passed by all places where I used to live and work… I visited wonderful people I worked with them once, had coffee/lunch/diner with amazing friends I shared good times with before…

That’s the same metro station I used to get off everyday, that’s the same street I used to walk to work, that the same grocery where I used to shop everyday, that’s the same restaurant I used to eat from time to time with the work gang.
That’s the neighborhood I used to live for years, and that’s our house where we had very special days...

I felt I was watching myself 10 years younger going here and there, doing this and that, waiting for this metro, this bus, this train, or driving in that direction… It felt as if I am living in my past again, felt nostalgic for those days, maybe not the freezing ones, LOL!

It is amazing how part of the old us might still be living in us without us knowing, and how small events can retrieve that part in us very quickly…

And I thought... How would it feel if we could really walk into our past again, finish the unfinished business, do what we should have done, say the words we should have said, express our gratitude and appreciation to people who contributed positively to our lives… forgive people who hurt us and become free of the hate… say our apologies to people we have hurt… say our last goodbye…

We may not be able to undo what had happened, but we can get a closure to it and be at peace in our present to be able to move lighter into our future…

Whatever you are holding to, is it making you happy? If not, how about letting it go? What are you trying to avoid by holding on to it? What are you afraid of facing or dealing with? And what will happen if you let go?

Paulo Coelho said: “Close some doors today. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they lead you nowhere”

As for me, I realized my trip was a ceremony to celebrate a great stage of life and get ready for an even more exciting one :)

Montreal, you will always be in my heart…


"Set fire to the broken pieces; start anew.”

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Friday, February 14, 2014

2014-02-14 - Friday Whisper – How They Fell in Love…

He got her mobile number from a cousin of his…
He googled her and read all about her…
He whatsapped her…
He got her attention from the first chat, with his eloquence, choice of words, and deepness of his questions…

On their third chat, he told her that she was the one…She said that too but in her heart, she was afraid it was too good to be true…

On their fourth chat he called her “Habibti”, her heart melted but didn’t tell him…

He called her, his voice was music to her ears; it blew her mind and filled up her heart…

Her sleepless nights started, his sleepless nights continued…

On their fifth chat, he told her “you’re special”, she told him “you’re taking my breath away”… he has already chosen the honeymoon destination…

On day 10, he bought the ticket to visit her next week…

It was the longest week to wait for in their lives…

He felt like a teenager again, she was on cloud number 9…

On day 16, she picked him up from the airport to spend the best next three days together… He got her a ring and a beautiful scarf; she got him her favorite book…

Two weeks ago, he didn’t exist for her... Now he is her everything…

She has always known deep in her heart that he existed out there…
She was looking for him in every man she’s met… Yet everytime there was something missing that she couldn’t identify…

She traveled to the next side of the world searching as she felt her heart was there…he was but they never met…

She came back…

Recently she felt her heart is in that place where he lives… Before she knew about him, her heart was pulling her hard toward that direction, she couldn’t understand that urge and just didn’t know why… but since she has always followed her intuition, in her mind she decided to move there next year…

With those three days that they have spent together, she realized that she has always missed him without her knowing… that life for her has a totally different meaning with him… that she has loved him since ever and will love him forever…

Now everything makes sense to her, her life events, her circumstances, the challenges she faced, the joy and sorrow she went through. Now she knows why she has crafted and framed the first letter of his name 15 years ago…

In his arms, she felt this is where she belongs…She can stay there forever… She knows now where her heart has landed, she feels safe, happy and serene…

He wrote her a poem, she wrote him a whisper…

A quote from “When Harry met Sally” says: “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

And another quote from an unknown author says: “Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.”

I don’t know where you have been all my life but I know it was worth waiting for you every year, every month, every day, every hour, every minute and every second.

You swept me off my feet and made it fun falling into you…

I love you Sami more than words can say, more than songs can play, and more than lovers can do…

And will always do…

Yours & Only,
Rania

that I kept all this time...


I have loved you all my life, it has just taken me this long to find you.”


Rania Hammoud, Life Coach
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Friday, January 24, 2014

2014-01-24 - Friday Whisper – I lost my Phone!


Couple of months ago, I lost my phone. I thought I forgot it at work but then after returning there, I found out that I have lost it… Most probably I dropped it in the cab…
I tried to call my number, no one answered… At some point they hung up on me…

So I had two choices: either to be angry and pissed off and frustrated or try to see it differently. So I took the second option as a challenge.

Hmmm…so let’s see how I can deal with it?

First, the mobile is already lost, there’s nothing I can do, it happened, and it belongs to the past. Full stop.

Why did it happen although I’ve put the mobile in my purse (without closing it though!)? What would be the reasons? Well, maybe the person who found it needed a phone or needed to call someone to check on… maybe the person sold the phone and used the money to cover basic needs... maybe the person never had a mobile before and it was a first for him… And my mobile was there to provide him/her all this!

Now you may tell me that the person ought to return the phone and do the right thing regardless of his/her situation… true, but this person for sure had poor values… which makes me pity him/her more :)

In all cases, somehow, I contributed to that person’s happiness and made his/her day, whether I wanted it or not :)

Today was my turn to lose my phone, tomorrow will be someone’s else; it cannot be others’ all the time, I’ve got to have my turn! :D

With doing all that, I kept my calm and my smile, and was able to move forward…

Of course there are times where bad events happened and we can’t act as peaceful as that, and for sure there are more serious events that may happen… We all go thru the same ones in most cases… Yet, no matter what happens, we always have a choice to decide how we want to react…it lays in our hands only…

James Owen, an American writer, said: “Bad things can happen, and often do--but they only take up a few pages of your story; and anyone can survive a few pages.”

Focus on what you can do today, instead of self-blaming or self-victimizing for what has already happened.

If it is the case, make a learning out of it, what behavior will you adopt today so that this event won’t happen again.

And just tell yourself, good times don’t last forever, neither do bad times ;)

As for me, I learnt two things:
-I should always close my purse in a cab
-It was time I offer myself a new mobile phone ;)



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Friday, January 10, 2014

2014-01-10 - Friday Whisper – Don’t Settle for Less…

You know how I always say do NOT take any new year resolutions, specially the ones that last as long as the first week of January!!!

But if I would recommend one resolution to take, it would be this one: “Do NOT settle for less”

Don’t settle for a job that adds nothing to your everyday just because it is secure…

Don’t settle for a house that doesn’t feel like home just because you want to own a house…

Don’t settle for an education your parents chose for you just because you want their approval…

Don’t settle for a friend who only calls you when he/she needs something or wants to nag about something just because you don’t have lots of friends…

Don’t settle for a gang of friends who share nothing of your values and beliefs just because you are afraid to stand alone…

Don’t settle for a relationship that drains you just because you are afraid to go thru a breakup or a divorce...

Don’t settle for a partner who doesn’t make you feel worthy everyday or doesn’t give you the love you need, just because you can’t find the right one for you…yet.

Know your worth, respect yourself, and get what you deserve: the best that is… And if you can’t find it, keep searching for it, dig it out, even create it if you can!

Steve Jobs, the late CEO of Apple, said: “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.”

And Maureen Dowd, an American columnist and author, said: “The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.”

Life is too short to waste it feeling nothing, enjoying nothing and risking nothing…

Don’t settle for an ordinary life, make it an extraordinary one, it is worth it!

And love yourself…




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