If you were to meet a forensic artist (who constructs the painting of a suspect thru details collected from witnesses), behind a curtain, and give him/her your details of your physical appearance, for them to draw it, how would you describe yourself? How would you describe your hair, your forehead, your eyes, your nose, your lips, your jaws? Would you mention the dark circles around your eyes? Or the pimples on your cheeks? Would you describe your nose compared to what you wish it would be?
I was watching a video of Dove called Real Beauty Sketches (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=litXW91UauE), where a forensic artist meets with women, behind a curtain; a woman A describes her face and the artist draw it. Then, the artist meets with another woman B who will describe woman A for the artist to draw her again. It was amazing how the two sketches came out different, woman’s A description being different from what she looked like and woman B’s description matching more. It made me reflect on how we see ourselves, how we concentrate on the “flaws” we have when others can only see our beauty…
Of course, the physical aspect is only the tip of the iceberg of what lies within us, how we grow to be hard on ourselves, how we let others’ pinions become more important than ours.
If any of your parent told you that you were fat or stupid or lame or compared you to a sibling or a cousin or even a stranger in a negative manner, write the idea down on a piece of paper, then bring another paper and write down the opposite, read it, think about it and feel it in your body… if your partner told you that you are boring, unsexy, do the same… if your teacher or boss did that too, repeat the process... The first paper? Burn it!
Wanna play the Dove game? Go as follows:
1-List the features of your face on a piece of paper and put a description next to each.
2-Now call a friend asking him/her to describe each feature of yours and write them down on a separate list
3-Compare the two lists. What do you notice?
Walt Disney said: “The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique”
And D.M. Dellinger, an American activist, said: “You are unrepeatable. There is a magic about you that is all your own.”
People see the uniqueness in you, do you?
Rania Hammoud, Life Coach
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